Lost Gifts: Miscarriage, Hope, and the God of All Comfort | Brittany Lee Allen

Updated:

Jun 3, 2026

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Published:

Jun 2, 2026

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How we talk about miscarriage—or don’t talk about it—matters. Miscarriage is one of the most painful experiences a family can endure, yet we rarely speak of it. The silence is deafening, and it creates a culture of isolation for families bearing these lost gifts.

Dave and his wife recently experienced the pain of miscarriage, and he wanted to discuss it publicly with Brittany Lee Allen, author of Lost Gifts: Miscarriage, Grief, and the God of All Comfort.

At the same time, many Christians—and Churches—are not handling miscarriage in a way that reflects the reality of what we believe about life in the womb. If we truly believe that a pre-born child is a person with an eternal soul, then these children should be celebrated—and mourned—communally.

This is a hard conversation, but a necessary one. It is also a reminder of the hope to be found in the God of all comfort.

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Also discussed on this episode:

Why the Church should break the 12-week rule
The Emotional Prosperity Gospel — and what it costs grieving Christians
What well-meaning Christians say that hurts the most
Praying the Psalms as a school of lament
Why our culture is so eager to look away from death
Suffering as gift — a paradox most of us would rather ignore
The parents who keep counting children no one else sees
“How many kids do you have?” — and the answer miscarriage makes us quietly weigh

(Timestamps below.)

0:00 — Why is it so hard for us to talk about miscarriage?

1:45 — My parents named and buried their miscarried child—and never stopped counting her

6:45 — My first experience with miscarriage

15:30 — The paradox of rainbow babies and our second experience with miscarriage

19:15 — Being happy in your situation, even if you’re not happy with your situation

20:30 — The Emotional Prosperity Gospel

23:00 — The importance of lament in the life of a Christian

26:00 — Why should we break the “12 week rule” for pregnancy announcements

30:40 — The Church needs to be the Church

32:30 — We are called to be the hands and feet of Christ

38:00 — Praying the Psalms

39:15 — Pregnancy after miscarriage is a battleground of fear and anxiety

46:30 — How should we talk about miscarriage? Also—what not to say?

53:00 — The Church needs to lead the way in changing how we discuss miscarriage

57:35 — Discussing infertility

1:00:00 — Becoming a parent is hard, but it is worth it

1:05:40 — Lost Gifts

1:07:30 — Theology of Suffering—Is suffering a gift?

1:11:00 — Why are we so eager to ignore the reality of death?

1:14:25 — How parenting connects us with reality

1:16:50 — How many kids do you have? (Are we answering honestly?)

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